A Mother’s Remarkable Communication with her Deceased Son
A month ago, a woman wrote me about her experiences with her son in the afterlife. I was so taken by her spontaneous abilities that I asked for permission to post her story. Although I have changed her name to preserve privacy, the words are otherwise hers.
My name is Georgia and my son died by suicide on April 18, 2012. He was 31 years old and a gifted architect and just a fun guy. He was married but had no children. As you can imagine, losing him was devastating to me and to our family. We were shocked and in total disbelief that this has happened to us
The first contact I had with Ben was on May 10, 2012. I was lying in bed still awake and thinking about getting up when I heard his voice. It was as clear a bell. I could even feel his breath in my ear. All he said was, “Hey Mom.” Now, this was the way he always began his voice mail messages to me. I was so happy to hear from him!!!! A week went by and again I was lying in bed in the early morning and felt him touch my shoulder. I started having monthly dreams about Ben from that moment on.
The dreams are very clear, not disjointed as some dreams can be…a real conversation between the two of us. In the first dream he told me he never died. We both cried and held one another. Again in June, I had another dream around the same time of the month. This time I was able to hug him and could feel his skin and the sweat on his shirt. We hugged and cried then too. July, another dream, more crying and hugging. Every month around the same time, another dream. I keep a journal and, of course, write every detail down. I am so glad I did!
The best dream happened on February 12, 2013. I was actually awakened by a bright light in my bedroom, very bright colors of pulsing blue and white light. I watched the light pulse on the bedroom wall and it took the form of an outline of an angel, a very primitive angel with no face. I knew immediately that it was 
Ben’s angel!!! I tried to take pictures of it with my cellphone camera but could not capture the image. I then went back to sleep only to be awakened again by an even more beautiful light of purple and blue surrounded by a gold glowing halo. It was just stunningly beautiful! I fell back to sleep again and then Ben came to me in my dream and said to me, “Mom, our bond can never be broken. I am always with you.”
I then saw his angel again, more defined this time. The angel’s head was bent down and a red heart pulsed in her chest area. Then butterflies starting coming out of her and she disappeared. I woke up sobbing with joy!!!!
I then had three dreams about him in the month of March, one in April around his anniversary date and the last one in May. No dreams in June or so far this month and I miss them so much! I have had other types of contact with him though. In my office desk drawer when I was looking for a pen, I found an old birthday card he had sent me. Twice I found a small picture of him on the kitchen floor and counter on the exact dates we were to have dinner with his friends from college.
I painted the picture of the angel. It turned out beautiful. I just want and need the dreams to continue. He feels so far away right now…why has he stopped coming to me in my dreams????
I wrote Georgia back a congratulatory note, summing it up with advice—“Here’s your challenge. If you want to know why the dreams have stopped, ASK BEN!!!! Don’t full around with secondary sources, go to the true source. You’ll get your answer.”
She wrote back immediately that she had a gut feeling about why the dreams stopped. She believed it was because she was experiencing anger towards her son for leaving. She even admitted swearing at him now and again, not forgetting to add, of course, that she loved him and would always be there for him.
Along with this communication she attached a picture of Ben’s, a real poster boy for a gorgeous All-American guy, and her charming drawing of his angel, posted above.
My response to her gut feeling was sharp and to the point: “I need to tell you right now that genuine—and justified—anger is probably the fastest, surest way to make contact. You may believe that your anger is blocking him coming to you in your dreams, but that is no more than a belief of yours. Such a belief, however, is enough to block contact. I’ve worked a great deal with people who have taken their own lives. In almost every case they feel terrible remorse for the pain they’ve caused. Ben may need to unburden himself with you.
At my suggestion, she began reading my book, The Last Frontier, especially the chapters where I explain how to communicate with the departed and what to expect.
Within three days, she wrote back again, clearly excited.
I have been practicing the principles and suggestions from the last chapter in your book and I think it has opened up even more communication…. I felt his presence yesterday afternoon and my whole body tingled. I started to speak to him right then and there, and that night he appeared in my dream!!!!!
I asked him why he didn’t tell me he was troubled or needed my help. He said, “I tried Mom, I just couldn’t.” He said he was worried that he didn’t have a “job.” I told him, “just come home…you can always come home.” Then we took a ride in his car and had fun laughing and feeling the wind whip through our hair. He was wearing his grey sweatshirt and had a smile that would light up a room!
WOW!
Hopefully, more to come!
I’m sure there is a lot more to come from Georgia. Stay posted!
Moni
2013-07-23 @ 12:46 AM
Good luck to “Georgia” and her family. Real experience! And Julia, I’m glad you guide people to go directly to the source themselves. When I think of the time I’ve wasted trying to convince myself I’m just imagining this stuff…
My mom came to me on the first anniversary of her death but she had to pantomime stuff to me because I couldn’t hear her. She stood at my drawing table and pointed at the blank pad and since then she has told me I need to draw in other ways. The thing about the first time though is we had anger issues– that’s why I couldn’t hear her.
I had just been certified in mediumship when she came very near to me. She blew me away with how easily she appeared and talked and how happy she was. I couldn’t handle it well. Our anger stuff is long worked out but just the thought of finally being able to talk with her easily on the other side was too much for me. I’m working now on learning how to just feel and be with feelings and not have to stop them or analyze them. Learning to trust my feeling senses over the past couple of years is what has opened up communication with spirits and animals.
Good luck to Georgia and her family.
Julia
2013-07-23 @ 8:06 AM
As in Georgia’s story, we assume the dead will shy away from anger, because we are afraid of it. Well, they don’t. In fact it would be better to assume they are expecting it. They know what they’ve done. Pretending you’re not angry will do more to scramble or fully block communication than anything else.
Silvia Guersenzvaig
2013-10-08 @ 2:01 AM
I lost my son on May 4th 2013. The night he took his life, he came to me as a ball of light right from the other dimension. I even heard his voice. He so excited he has found me!
He enwrapped me in his light like he was hugging me with his essential self and told me telepathically he was joyful and free. I answered by telling him he was my bundle of joy.
From then on we have ongoing communication. He comes here and there, often surprising me with a comment, sometimes responding to a thought or idea I have in a certain moment.
His voice is clear, although subtle. It comes as a pulsation in my heart and as a wisper I am learning to listen to as time goes by. He assured me he is well and happy; he comforts me when I am in pain and leads me out of it. He also asks me to trust him and trust my experience. When he comes and we communicate, I feel peaceful and calm. I want people to know our loved ones go on with their journey. My son told me that the afterlife is more real, more lovely and more beautiful than I can ever imagine. He also assured me he will be at the gate when my time comes . Love to all -Silvia
Julia
2013-10-08 @ 3:57 PM
Bravo Silvia! This is as it should be. Thanks so much for sharing this. It will help so many others who are suffering from the loss of a child.
Silvia Guersenzvaig
2013-10-08 @ 6:42 PM
Dear Julia:
I am going through a birth canal, birthing a new brain. Trying to transform all my conditioning about death and loss as I go on with the journey of living without my son.
I came across your website in search of training. I want to help people with their loss and inspire them with my story and more. I am planning to move to Argentina and create a non-profit organization or something like that and would appreciate mentorship. Yours or anyone you consider will help me gather the information that will support my experience of my son’s passing. I have been watching Brian Weiss, Michael Newton, and listening to many people speak about their NDEs because it was the only thing that gave me comfort after his passing.
My son gifted me with a moment of clarity over the nature of reality and I know it is for a reason beyond my personal life.
He is my teacher now.
Thank you for your mission. I hope I can join it sometime soon.
Blessings
Silvia
Julia
2013-10-19 @ 10:43 AM
Silvia, first I would like to apologize for not responding sooner. I have been on the road again and it is difficult to keep up with all that comes across on the internet.
It seems to me that you have already joined the mission! Your journey is one I hear about from many mothers who have lost a child–a complete change in direction toward exploring the meaning of life and death. I applaud you. Please consider writing your full story for my website. It helps so many get through their loss.
If there is anything I can do for you, just give a shout!
Blessings to you too,
Julia
Silvia Guersenzvaig
2013-11-05 @ 8:24 AM
Dear Julia, thank you so much for your response, it means a lot to me.
I am currently reading your book and what your are saying speaks to my heart and my experience clearly and truthfully. I highly recommended it.
I feel very drawn to your cause, and would like to take your courses in the near future.
Just as you also mentioned in your book, I suspect we are collectively on the verge of a new and expanded level of consciousness, one that is not limited by the dualisms of life and death but as a sort of continuum. At list that is the impression I received from my son before he crossed over. As you suggested I will write more of my story later on. Blessings your way!
Julia
2013-11-05 @ 1:50 PM
Thanks so much Silvia. Yes, the dualisms have got to go! I look forward to hearing about your son and the contact who have had with him. Blessings your way too!
silvia Guersenzvaig
2013-11-27 @ 7:11 AM
After devouring your book I came to realized Josh and I have a Soul to Soul connection.
He makes himself heard in my heart often and very specially when I fall into my guilt justifications, which by his own words, lead me nowhere and is a waist of time.
He says he will always be close to me and asks me to please trust our connection.
The way we connect is so thin, so delicate yet when I make myself receptive to his presence I hear his words very clearly in my heart through my throat into my inner hearing. What a journey this is!
So hard to validate something so new to me without falling into self doubt. Dearest Julia ,your wise words would be much appreciated. Love to all
Julia
2013-11-28 @ 1:04 AM
Silvia, thank you for writing about your communication with your son. It sounds like you are doing beautifully. Often the contact is subtle. If you want it to be stronger, ask him to be clearer or to tell you what he wants to tell you in another way. If he cannot, he might well tell you why! Emotional energy helps on both sides. Nevertheless, you are already in a lovely, tender, and undoubtedly enduring relationship with him. Wonderful!
melva
2014-04-17 @ 12:27 AM
I too have had contact with my deceased son and would love to contact him again. If u know of anyone who could help please let me know. I miss him desperatly.
Julia
2014-06-20 @ 5:06 AM
Melva, you might consider an Induced After-death communication therapist. Or just do it yourself. I help people to make contact in private phone sessions. You can make contact because you like all creatures are telepathic. Telepathy is all it takes. Look for my “how-to” on this website or for an expanded version, see the last section of my book.