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  1. ken kuhn
    2014-01-09 @ 7:00 PM

    Julie, the idea that we connect in heightened emotional states corresponds to my experience too. What I’ve found is that I finally am at the stage of looking beyond simple verification to actually carrying on a conversation which seems a lot more than talking to myself. Being a male over 65 I wonder about that statement concerning lack of emotional connection. Many of my male friends have become more emotional as they get older. For example my life long friend Ed, who has recently turned 80 becomes teary-eyed over almost anything to the point of finding it difficult to talk. My dad started to become this way and progressed along that path more as he got over 90 so I wonder about a clarification of your statement “The failures are usually men over the age of 65, because of their tendency to freeze when asked to access their emotions.” I wonder if men just express their emotions somewhat differently than women more than that they lack them. It might be that there should be a real conversation about this between men and women to reveal differences in style that may be overlooked.

    • Julia
      2014-01-09 @ 10:04 PM

      Thanks for pointing this out Ken. I did not say that ALL men of that age group are uncomfortable with emotion but that those who don’t achieve after-death communication have been decidedly uncomfortable. I would also like to point out that as we age, suppressed sides of our nature begin to surface. Hence the increased emotionalism you reported in your comment. I don’t believe at all in a genetic difference between the psychology of men and women (eg, Mars vs Venus). I think such differences are learned. If men and women carry emotion differently it is because we are taught to do so.

      • Ken
        2014-01-13 @ 7:12 AM

        Hi Julie
        Thx for your reply to my Q. The notion that we can carry on an ongoing conversation fits with my experience. That sounds like not only maintaining a past relationship but continuing one. Does that involve a growth in parties involved on both sides? I find that I’m not anxious to escape from this life until the time is appropriate but the feeling that the benefits of an ongoing relationship need not be an escape but a dynamic “living” one feels right. Is it appropriate to ask them to share our experiences and that we share theirs is some sort of way or is the divide there to keep the two realities separate? What is the purpose of the separation? How does that connection relate to new ones that develop in this life?

        • Julia
          2014-01-13 @ 11:09 AM

          Hi Ken, There is no explicit purpose to the “separation.” Instead, death is a change in focus, from the material to the non-material. Without it, our psyche’s cannot grow. Many of the dead folk I have worked with feel no separation whatsoever from the living they love. So, it is not about separation really. And of course, the ideal of what I call a “living relationship” is that growth, inspiration and creativity continue on both sides of the veil, the living influencing the deceased and vice versa. If we had broader concepts of consciousness and how it works, we would be able to share in more of the experiences from the afterlife. Some of the people I work with have been invited into the world of their deceased loved one. Through mental projection, we can walk around in their constructions and get to know something about the inter-dimensionality the deceased recognize, work with, and enjoy. It is astonishing work!

  2. ken
    2014-01-28 @ 6:07 PM

    So Julie my question is about multitude relationships and soul mates. Since we maintain relationships with those we love after one has died how do multiple relationships in sequence work? It seems to be possible to love again after one’s love has died do these relationships conflict? What do you do with being faithful? In my case, to my utter surprise I have loved a second woman after one has died without unloving the other. Now that both have passed on it seems like a puzzle in human terms. Maybe we don’t have to understand it but just love but it can seem confusing in that I don’t feel that choosing one or the other is necessary or even a good thing.

    • Julia
      2014-01-29 @ 12:18 AM

      A lot of people are confused about this issue, Ken. So I’m glad you brought it up. Usually, the people we are attracted to, the people we love and with whom we most resonate, are from the same soul constellation. By that I mean, the same psychological consciousness. You could say we run in the same circles. The two women you love may have been your mother in another life, a child, and perhaps even siblings of each other. Talk about confusion! The conflict that could arise is personal (eg. your mother treated you like her servant in the last life), but otherwise won’t conflict. Hopefully one day, each of us will be in love with all humanity and jealousy will no longer exist.

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